Your sanity, however, is paramount. Renowned relationship expert Audrey Hope says, “Your relationship with yourself and your integrity is the prize, and if you lose some relatives in the unbuttoning, then so be it!” Taking care of yourself takes precedent. “If (a relative’s) posts become directed at you, personally, because you hold a different view, then you might seriously want to consider unfriending them completely,” Dr. Brown ultimately advises. “There’s enough toxicity going around. Do you really want to expose yourself to that?”