Audrey Hope, a relationship expert and addictions specialist at Seasons in Malibu, said a lack of communication can cause a married couple to give up over time. “You put your feelings under the rug, in a closet, in a drawer, and buried what you are wanting to say. Resentment and problems build because there is too much ‘stuff’ in the closet. The pain of not relating to each other might reach the limit and you can’t clear things out, so you leave each other,” Hope told The Cheat Sheet.