If you have terrible self esteem and blame yourself for your partner's treatment of you, you are in a bad situation. Audrey Hope, a renowned relationship expert, told me, 'Low self-esteem is almost always a trait of someone who is abused. The first place they go and land is into their own faults and weaknesses. They think the behavior of the other person is because they are making them mistreat them. They are the ones who need to change or else the abuse would not happen.'