Self-love and self-esteem are priceless jewels. To possess the energy of these gifts is to know the secrets of the gods, and to be without them is to know the pain of unhappiness. To think of entering a relationship without self-esteem is like trying to drive a car without fuel, like wanting to cook a meal without fire, like trying to breathe without air. Self- esteem is the basic ingredient necessary for all great relationships and the formula for healthy love.
“The sovereignty of the self” is a term I coined to mean treating yourself like royalty, like a king/queen who deserves the best with a vow to honor your own heart and authentic voice. You marry yourself first, you are true to yourself and you live by a code of strong boundaries of self-care. You teach people to treat you with respect and dignity and you never take crap. You never lose yourself in a relationship or anything that can happen in the outside world. You aspire to become a master of your destiny and superior to circumstances. You own yourself and you are free.
You can never have too much self-esteem. By definition, self-esteem is centered in the divine energy of knowing who you are and what you possess. There is no ego in loving what is real and great about you, owning that truth, and living it. People may not like the powerful you, but that is their problem. Your job is to stay in a place of inner power. Your success is from a scorecard that is above you and aligned with integrity from source and not from the outside world. You measure your worth from a different scope – the light of your own soul.
Do not enter into a partnership unless you have strong self-esteem. Relationships become dangerous and hurtful unless you have done your own healing work and filled the empty donut holes that exist within you. If you seek to fill the wounds with another person, you are marked for trouble. Love is possible only when you refuse to accept crumbs and stop making deals with yourself based on loneliness and fear. You love without need. Your mate is icing on your cake.
Self-esteem is a forever thing. It does not waver. It does not come and go and start and stop and it is not based on what is happening in your life. It encompasses the mantra NO MATTER WHAT! It embraces powerful words, ENOUGH and NO! One must embody the laws, boundaries and vows of self-esteem that include these precepts:
- I vow to love and take care of myself forever and always.
- I will never let anyone treat me badly ever again.
- I will always be true to myself.
- I will never let any relationship take my power.
- I will never give my power to a man/woman/ or an event.
- I vow to love myself unconditionally.
Love is gentler when it is embraced in a spiritual perspective. When you put on “spiritual eyeglasses,” one can see heartache, divorce, the ending of a love affair as a divine wake-up call. It is a sacred push for deep transformation. The empty space can be a time of reflection and learning and preparation for the wonderful new life that it is to come…but only if you do the healing work that is necessary.
In the madness and chaos of the heart, one is brought to their knees by an invitation to transform. The pain moved you closer to your wholeness. One must break eggs to make an omelet. There must be a crack in the heart for the light to enter. The question to ask the soul at this breaking, what is the relationship asking me to see in myself? What am I inspired to heal? How can I grow from this experience of love?
Here are some quick tools for healing manifestation:
- Become what you wish to find in another.
- Become your list.
- Become the love you seek.
- Become your authentic self.
- Demand the best.
- Investigate patterns, themes and lessons that repeat in your life.
- Use the love experience as an opportunity to heal everything in your world.
It is not a small issue to speak of self-love. It is the manifesting power to heal people and nations. It is the key we all need. With powerful self-esteem you can become a beacon of inspiration and invite others to do the same.
The divinity in me salutes the divinity in you.
Self- love is the magic formula to manifest sacred love.
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