Do you wonder what you can do when you are really angry, really upset, when life has got you in the reality of it? Well, today we’re going to talk about keeping it real and what you can really do about it. And please follow me for more tips on how to thrive and survive in this crazy life.
Now, when you are really feeling bad, you can’t just be all love, compassion, and forgiveness. You can’t just listen to people saying, “Oh, it’ll get better, you should really be positive,” or “Know that this too shall pass.” Sometimes, that is just the most impossible thing to do, and you have to honor it. That’s a really high jump, and it’s often known as a spiritual bypass, which is moving into something really spiritual in the “shoulds,” which is not what you really feel.
So here’s a healing technique that you can do to honor what you’re really going through. Just imagine, with your eyes closed, that there is this free space, a golden ball of light, and inside of it is a chair or a bench for you to sit in. You’re entering this free spiritual space where you honor what you feel and what you’re really going through. So you enter it, you sit down, and you allow all the real feelings to come through you. That means you can scream in your imagination, yell, and if you need to, hit a wall, punch whatever is really coming out. It is a safe space.
Then, you can ask the person who pissed you off, who really got you mad, to join you in this space. And they will come in, and you can begin to hit them, scream at them, say something that you really need to say to them that you didn’t say, and really take care of yourself. Remember, again, it is a safe space, you are in the light. And you do this until you are completely emptied of what you have been holding, maybe for years. And you get it out. And then you finish it, you ask the person to leave, you thank them for coming, and they leave this beautiful golden ball.
And you sit, and you take a moment, and you honor the wound, the reality of what happened. And that is real compassion, but compassion for yourself. And when you are done, finished, you will feel it. And then you can go back now to real life. And you can nap, take a walk, but know that you did something really courageous because you honored your real feelings, your real anger, without the idea you shouldn’t feel that way. And that is keeping it real, and that is the most spiritual thing you can do for yourself.