The holidays are here, and God knows we need to celebrate the survival of this year and actually the last few years. It’s a wonderful holiday time to celebrate, be with friends, let loose, and stop thinking. But then there’s this other thing, and this video is for, I hope, the select few – the holiday survival for the family. This is something we don’t really like to talk about, but there are some very toxic family members. So, this is the soul spiritual relationship expert Survival Guide.
Number one, you think because they are your relatives that you have to take it, and you don’t. You really don’t. You have to learn the spiritual law of self-love, self-safe, and self-care, which is the sovereignty of the self. This means I have rights to be healthy, protected, and take care of myself first. And that means boundaries. If it gets really, really tough, I don’t have to take it.
The next thing is to put a shield two feet all around you. You must live with this shield. I talk about it all the time, which is to protect yourself from any energy. If it gets too toxic, you can excuse yourself from the dinner table, go wash your hands, do a one-two-three, and get yourself back into your light. Just release all negative energy out your feet and take back that light and restore yourself, like you’re rebooting the computer.
Next, you get to boomerang the conversation if it gets too toxic and you don’t want to talk about something. You could do a little boomerang, which is, “So tell me about you and blah, blah, blah.” You’re just pivoting back and getting out of a very tricky situation which could cause you great distress.
You also can leave early if you want. Yes, you can excuse yourself and go. And you must make sure that you do not have any guilt about doing any of this because, again, the sovereign right to protect oneself, to be healthy, is an absolute law.
The last thing, which is the most powerful, is a neural reprogramming technique (NLP), which is to use your imagination and to turn a toxic person into another image. It could be a cartoon, maybe an animal, or maybe some vegetables. I had a client who turned her whole dinner table into vegetables – carrots, turnips, celery – and sat throughout the dinner and amused themselves. They took the toxic energy out just by changing the image. So use your imagination, do what you must, think about cartoons, think about image replacement, and have a good time and take care of yourself because it is your sovereign right to do so, even if you are related by blood. Have a great holiday.
